Career, money, work, health are the most common reasons, but it is not the main cause.
Kim Joon-hyup recently had his first date in three years. But the 24-year-old student really has no need to find a girlfriend, he is just completing his homework at a university dating course.
From choosing the right partner to dealing with breakups, the “Gender and Culture” course at Sejong University in Seoul taught students different aspects of dating, love, and sex. .
The class is particularly famous for its dating mission, in which students are paired with random partners for four-hour dates.
Instructor Bae Jeong-weon said, “There are quite a number of students who come to experience dating. There are students who have never dated before, and there are some who want to create opportunities by dating. like this.”
In a global study conducted by pharmaceutical group Pfizer (USA) in 2000, 11% of Koreans said they did not have a sex life. This number has more than tripled since then.
By gender, women were more likely to not have sex (43%), while 29% of men said no.
Notably, 42% of young men aged 19-29 have not had sex in the past year. This rate is highest among all age groups in men, even higher than men around 60 years old (39%). 24% of these said that they made this choice because they could not find a partner.
When asked why, 24% of women said they were not interested. Among men, the top reason given by 15% is that they can’t find a partner even though they really want to have sex, frankly, the core reason why so many Korean men “sleep” During the past 1 year, it was due to low self-esteem, fear of contact with the opposite sex, leading to heavy and total lack.
Another 15% said their choice was based on voluntary, also a “colorful” way of saying that they are reluctant to go out with girls but are rejected, while 21% are forced to “abstain” mainly because financial or health problems.
Kim Joon-hyup, a student at Sejong High, is a workaholic. In addition to attending college full-time, every weekday evening he goes to a school 30 minutes from home to learn video game design.
“I don’t have much time,” Kim said. “Even when I meet someone, I feel sorry for not having the time to invest in that person.”
Lee Young-seob, 26, a recent graduate, is concerned that dating will distract him from his job search. “My career is the most important thing in my life, but if I date someone while I’m looking for a job, I get nervous and can’t commit to the relationship,” he says.
There were 32,000 cases of sexual violence reported to the police in 2017, compared with 16,000 in 2008, according to National Police Agency figures.
Of these, intimate partner violence has increased sharply. Between 2016 and 2018, the number of cases where a person was assaulted by a partner or a date increased from 9,000 to nearly 19,000.
University student Lee Ji-su, 21, said she didn’t want to date when a friend was assaulted by her boyfriend after asking to break up. Lee said the friend was terrified because the man kept showing up at her house even after their relationship ended.
Lee said, “After watching my friend go through such abuses, I realized that I have to be more careful in choosing my dating partner, but it’s not easy to find men. “It makes me wonder if dating is that important in my life or if I have to spend so much time looking for men I can trust. “